Expectations

I’m just realizing that some people do things for others just so they can get something from them when the need arises.

“I’m doing this for you, so I expect you to do this for me when I need it”. They don’t outrightly say this but that’s what most people have in mind.

However, this cannot always be the case.

What if the person you helped does not have the kind of resources you have? What if the person is unable to help you in your time of need?

Does that make that person bad? — I highly doubt.

The point I’m trying to make is that people cannot always help you because you helped them. The fact that you give me money today doesn’t mean that if you need money tomorrow, I’m obliged to give you even if I don’t have it.

I know there’s sometimes a tendency to feel obliged to help those who help/helped you. That’s okay. If you’re in the capacity to return the favour, feel free to do so in anyway you so please.

There are times where people do not expect anything in return. They just genuinely give. However, people sometimes do expect you to be at their beck and call because they did you a favour. I personally think that’s unfair.

Here’s a little advice: People will not always be able to help you back because you once helped them, so stop expecting them to do something for you because you did something for them. That’ll save you from a whole lot of disappointments.